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Episode 16: Soul Mates Aren’t Real, Says David Essel


Episode 16: Soul Mates Aren’t Real, Says David Essel

Fairy tales wouldn’t lie, would they? My soul mate would romance me during a bachata, right?

I first heard of soul mates while reading a fairy tale. I don’t remember which one exactly, but there was a damsel in distress and a handsome prince determined to save her from evil. So..all of them. And I believed in soul mates. I imagined there was just one man out in the Universe made just for me and only me. He would complete me. He would rescue me from Washington Heights. He would be my prince – only less blonde and more Dominican with a love of platanos. 

I continued to believe in soul mates way after I stopped reading fairy tales. Even Charlotte’s take on soul mates on Sex and the City couldn’t convince me otherwise. 

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Soul mates were not a sham. I mean, Mr. Big was her soul mate, dammit! Then I spoke with my friend, Vicky, a social worker with a heart of gold and an openness to all things love and sex. Of course, Vicky had a different take: we have more than one soul mate.

I was baffled by her defiance of “one true love-ness.” Fairy tales wouldn’t lie, would they? My one true love, my soul mate, my Latin prince (not Romeo Santos) would romance me during a bachata, wouldn’t he? Ummm…no. Vicky along with David Essel, coach and author of Positive Thinking Will Never Change Your Life, But This Book Will, convinced me of that. And I chat with David about the myth of soul mates and how positive thinking really doesn’t work (thoughts don’t become things?!) on this week’s Love Sujeiry podcast. So, if you think you’re going to will a soul mate to your front door with a  vision board, you’ll have better luck finding a Dominican that doesn’t eat platanos.  

Listen to this week’s podcast now!

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.


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