I’ve struggled with setting boundaries with family and in my romantic relationships all of my adult life. For a long time, I didn’t see that I had a problem. Isn’t it natural to sleep with an ex after not hearing from them in 6 months? I mean, he sounded so sweet on the phone and he asked to come over nicely. Isn’t it just cordial to wait for your date at a bar when he’s an hour late and “on the way?” The poor guy came all the way from the tippy top of the South, South Bronx! Or was that the North? I’ve never been great at directions.
Fear. Anxiety. Poor decision making. Like Drake, I felt all the feelings (and these specifically) when I launched my goal setting planner and I didn’t meet my sales goals. Like Drake, I expected to make “more money bitches!” That, however, did not happen, as I explain here, and I almost self sabotaged my own success. Fortunately, I stopped my saboteur (me!) dead in her tracks – and you can too. Here is tried and true tested advice on overcoming self sabotage.
I launched my goal setting planner and I felt damn good about setting an intention and accomplishing my goal. I felt like dancing a merengue ripiao. I felt like singing a faith-filled gospel. I was on a high; surely I would sell 50 copies during my first week. Only I didn’t. When I analyzed my sales numbers my heart dropped, my hips stopped swinging, and my voice cracked. I sold 4 books. FOUR! Begins Self Sabotage Success Sequence.