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I Am 40, Here Me Roar!

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I Am 40, Here Me Roar!

At 40, I vow to take each day as it comes, find solutions instead of bailing, and stop complaining so damn much.

Today I am 40. I celebrate a new year of life. A new decade. And I thank 39 for teaching me many things. Lessons I thought I had already learned. Lessons I believed I had mastered. Yet there I was at 39, making the same mistakes, stumbling along and, at times, feeling stuck, unclear and lost.

At 39, I learned that I have to grow the fuck up. I had yet to do that to the fullest of my potential. I have struggled with following through and embracing responsibilities. I have sucked at sucking things up (work, authority – you name it) like other adults do. And for a long time I believed this was because I was special and had a calling. I still believe I have a purpose in this life, to spread a message of authenticity and strength for women of color.

But being my authentic self doesn’t mean I have to be selfish. It doesn’t mean I should think of my immediate needs only.

I have learned that #adulting and taking on bigger responsibilities, like being a new mom and equal partner, doesn’t take away from the childlike, youthful woman that I am. I can still be that person and kickass at work. I can be that woman and hold down the fort. I can be that human being and still party it up and be spontaneous and creative.

I have learned that I can be my authentic self and pursue my passion all while holding down my family. And yes, that means having a traditional career and returning to the 9-5 workforce. That means working on my YouTube page less, this website less, and my social media less so that I can build financial wealth until this here biz makes me a millionaire. There ain’t nothing going up but the rent. Boo can’t do it alone. And I don’t want him to.

I have learned how much I’ve strived to be independent while sabotaging opportunities to be independent. I’ve quit jobs that would have been amazing long term because I felt like I was sacrificing some part of my creative dream. I’ve quit at times because I didn’t feel good enough or smart enough. I didn’t even go full throttle when working at my dream job on radio because I wanted things to come easy.

I wasn’t grateful. I know that now. And that’s why now at 40, I vow to take each day as it comes, find solutions instead of bailing, and stop complaining so damn much.

I vow to find the good in every shitty situation.

I vow to build myself and my loved ones up.

I vow to continue to grow personally and professionally, to be accountable for my actions and to not be so hard on myself when I do fuck up.

Because I will fuck up.

I am 40. I am woman. I am human.

I am open for what this new decade brings and will continue to learn, to grow, to be authentically me.

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of LoveSujeiry.com. She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto LoveSujeiry.com - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on Latina.com works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.

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