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I’m Trying to Be the Best Version of Myself and It’s Painful

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Sujeiry Gonzalez


I’m Trying to Be the Best Version of Myself and It’s Painful

When it comes to personal development, it’s all about being the best version of ourselves.

Compassionate. Loyal. Loving. Energetic. Good spirited. Funny. Forgiving. Social. These are all qualities that I possess and that I love. I am also proud, stubborn, sensitive, impatient, and sometimes even nasty.

It’s tough balancing all of these parts. I’m trying to be the best version of myself and sometimes it’s painful.

That’s because this continuous process of personal development has pushed me outside of my comfort zone. I have let down my guard, become more vulnerable than I ever imagined, lessened my sense of pride, remained steadfast when coping with personal obstacles, and have apologized to those I’ve let down even when they’ve also let me down yet refuse to rebuild.

So it is painful. Being the best version of myself is painful. It tests me. My ego rears its ugly head and pushes back, and so I can’t always be the pure, loving soul that I am.

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This is the challenge that I face, this is the challenge that we all face when trying to do better, be better. Breaking old patterns and defense mechanisms doesn’t make it easy, but trust me when I say that it is worth it. Even when I’m uncomfortable, even when I’m unsure of why I feel the way I feel and do the things that I do, taking the time to reflect even when I’m hurting emotionally, is worth it. Because in all that guck and pain I feel myself growing into a better version of myself.

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.


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