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I Didn’t Feel Lovable or That My Voice Mattered

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I Didn’t Feel Lovable or That My Voice Mattered

I didn’t feel lovable. I didn’t feel like my voice mattered. So I silenced myself, dimmed my light and suppressed my wild, spontaneous and impulsive energy.

A lot of people don’t know that I was a really shy girl. I hid behind my mother’s skirt when I was afraid (which was often) and I rarely said a word unless spoken to. So when childhood friends and neighbors see me now, when they witness my boldness, high energy and talkativeness, when they hear me on radio and read my love and sex content, they ask me, “What happened to you?” 

Here’s what. I discovered who I really am: a passionate and creative person who has a lot to say and even more to do in this world. I realized that I was hiding behind more than Mami’s skirt; I was hiding behind a shell of a shy little girl, filled with insecurities and low self-worth

I didn’t feel lovable. I didn’t feel like my voice mattered. So I silenced myself, dimmed my light and suppressed my wild, spontaneous and impulsive energy.

I didn’t think anyone wanted to see the real me. 

At 14, I finally burst out of my self-imposed prison. I was a student at Phillips Academy Andover, a prep school where most students are geniuses, rich – or both. And there I was, adolescent Sujeiry with giant, plastic, one-size-too-large welfare glasses and a row of silver braces on her bottom teeth. I dragged my feet onto that beautiful campus with my head hung low, feeling different, poor and dumb. Until I was told about the Af-Lat-Am’s Latin Arts Weekend Talent Show. I came alive. My back straightened and I felt a new sense of confidence kick in. I felt called to perform.

My last time on a stage was in elementary school. But, what would I do? What was my talent? Sing. I was in chorus in 4th and 5th grade; Ms. Tanner always said I had a pretty voice. I just couldn’t do it alone. 

This is when the real Sujeiry peaked from behind the curtain. “I’m going to find singers and create a group,” I said. Just. Like. That. 

I spread the word. Days later, a group of Lowers (sophomores in non-Andover speak) approached me outside of Commons (our dining hall). There were 3 of them: twins and a tall Amazon with big curly hair. 

PLUS: I Was His Opening Act and She Got Headliner Treatment 

“We hear your looking for singers to perform,” the Amazon stated. She was the leader of the pack. I nodded, feeling intimidated. What did I get myself into? I knew my impulsiveness would get me in trouble, I badgered. And here I was, pretending I knew anything about forming and leading an acapella group. 

“We want to be a part of it,” she continued. The twins opened their mouths and the most angelic sound boomed from their voice box. They sang a Boyz II Men song better than Boyz II Men. 

“Ok, you’re in,” I finally spoke, hoping I sounded as confident as I pretended. 

Then came Trudy. She found us one day and blew the campus down with her powerful voice. Trudy sang to us in front of Bancroft dorm and every student stopped dead in their tracks. She was in. We were all in. I had created a singing group just. Like. That. We named ourselves Illusion. 

The name spoke to each of us. Being Latinas of a darker complexion, the twins and Trudy felt the word “illusion” spoke to their feeling misunderstood. I loved the name also. Up to that point I lived behind an illusion of a timid, frightened and sensitive young girl. I was so much more that than person. 

I was ready to drop the illusion and embrace all parts of me. 

And I did. Slowly but surely, I tapped into my truth thanks to music, writing and performing. I found my calling. That’s why I am so passionate about helping others do the same. That’s why I launched – to give women of color a voice and a platform to share their innermost thoughts and musings on all things love.

Honestly, I wouldn’t be who I am today without creativity and having a creative outlet. So I decided to create one.  

I also continue to grow as I fill the role of mother, partner and business owner. I take time daily to reflect and embrace the Sujeiry I am today. I’m that sex-talking, sensitive and sometimes shy mujer who still loves her momma…and sometimes even hides behind her skirt. 

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.


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