It’s not always enough to have your group of “there for you” girlfriends. You may have one or two frenemies in your circle. Whether you want ’em or not, you’ve got them. The girls you hate to love or love to hate permeate the already blurred, modern-day definition of friendship.
A perfect example of frenemies are Blair and Serena from the CW’s “Gossip Girl.” Their friendship was a never-ending, back and forth drama. One never knew whom was aligned with whom.
I can relate as I had a couple of frenemies in adolescence and early adulthood. Funny enough they ended up being the gals I loved to hate. These particular females sucked up too much of my energy. So I cut them off. The constant attention that frenemies demand is just not worth it.
So why do we keep them around? Should we befriend them or dump them? There are pros and cons of having frenemies. Let’s tackle the pros.
You might be having a completely shitty day and need to let loose. So you look for a get up and a partner in crime. Who better than a girl who has a no-holds bar attitude when having fun? Sure, you’ll probably be her babysitter for the night, but she’s fun to laugh at after you sober up.
Regardless of whether your friendship lasts, your frenemy may know a lot of well-connected people that may benefit you. Long-term and short-term personal or professional connections may be a good reason to put up with a taxing friend.
But with the good comes the bad.
Too Much Drama
Life is dramatic enough, so you may not want to be BFFs with a woman who can’t take a chill pill. Besides, no one wants to be associated with someone that everyone knows is trouble. They’ll start believing you’re the same way and leave you out of all the fun! And the promotions.
Can’t Trust Her
You may not be able to tell your frenemy anything cause it may just be used against you.
However you decide to view your frenemy, you should always tread lightly. Your best interests will always be held most dear by friends who are truly looking out for you. Whether it’s a boring night on the town or not.