Have you ever felt like you are suffocating? Like everything in your life is causing you to drown? Has your man ever made it worse? If you said yes to any of these questions, girl, you need some serious “me time.”
I can relate to what you may be feeling. In my previous relationship, I constantly felt anxious and overwhelmed. I felt like I was at war with the world. I had to fight to just breathe. My then boyfriend could not wrap his head around my need to be alone. He believed he was the answer to my stress and anxiety; in reality, he caused most of it. Sometimes I just wanted to be alone, blast music and cry my eyes out.
I loath crying but it has helped me heal old wounds.
As women, we also need a few moments, or sometimes hours, to focus on us. Naturally, we are giving creatures. We are often on the go, taking care of others, and we forget to give to the most important person – ourselves.
So, the next time you are ready to yank your hair out or put a hole in your bedroom wall, try some of these tips on how to cater to me, myself and I. Here is how you can create some “me time.”
1. Cry it out, girl.
I know what you are thinking: is she serious? Well, yes, I am very serious. Whether you like to or not, crying will make you feel better. If you are always suppressing your feelings, find some relief. Have a good cry and then keep it moving.
2. Put it on paper.
If crying ain’t your thang, take some “me time” via writing. Jot down your thoughts and feelings. Explore dreams or record inspirational quotes. This not only works as an emotional outlet, but it is also a great way to do some much needed inner work.
3. Turn your phone off.
If you really want ” me time,” turn off your phone. I know. This seems almost impossible! But this device keeps us connected to the world. To literally unplug will give you the freedom to focus on yourself. Send out your last few texts. Tell your loved ones you need a break. Turn off your phone. Take a nap, watch a movie, or go for a walk. Use this time to be one with you.
4. Take yourself out on a date.
Pick two days out of the month to do things that you want to do with only you. It doesn’t matter if you want to spend the day at home in your pajamas, or you want to wander around your neighborhood. Just make it all about you. Treat yourself to a great breakfast. Go to the salon. Order from your favorite restaurant. No matter what you decide or how you find your “me time” remember that you deserve it!