When I was in junior high school, I dreamt I’d be the cutest Dominican bride. My future husband would be Jairo Madera, a classmate of mine since the fourth grade. Joey from New Kids on the Block was unavailable. Besides, Jairo was cute enough. I wanted to rub my hands in his dirty blonde hair and spend 7 Minutes in Heaven. I wanted a last name that translates to ‘Wood” in English. Sujeiry Madera had such a nice ring to it, I thought.
But Jairo and the Universe had other plans.
Jairo broke my 12 year old heart when he made out with my “friend” Linda. While The Universe wanted me single so I could focus on my education and professional dreams.
So I can become Latina Smart.
Though I just joined the Latina Smart campaign, I have always been hard working, determined and passionate about my education and career goals. Let’s fast forward to high school, where I was still single, yet very educated. I attended the prestigious Phillips Academy Andover in Andover, Massachusetts. The only Dominican in my graduating class, I had to push even harder to prove that I belonged. And I did because I knew I was smart enough and that I did belong. Still, like any teenage girl, boys were on the brain. While I dreamt of going away to college and pursuing a career in entertainment and media, I also envisioned meeting my future husband. It wasn’t Jairo. Sujeiry Madera had a terrible ring to it, I thought. Whomever he was, I was convinced he attended The University of Massachusetts at Amherst.
Now, here I am. 34, single and extremely happy with my relationship status and professional path. I published by first book, Love Trips: A Collection of Relationship Stumbles, in January . I am a successful freelance writer with a Masters degree in Writing Arts. My dream of being someone’s wife may not have come to fruition (yet) but my dream of success is here, and so much better. I didn’t allow my love woes to extinguish my determination. In fact, I turned those troubles into lessons and I am now a relationship (non)expert, helping women make better choices in love. Though I was heartbroken in college by Kurt, who constantly made out with other women in front of me (the second coming of Jairo!), I studied, graduated and pursued my dream of becoming a successful, passionate and fulfilled creative being. I keep my dream alive because I believe in myself and my talents.
Because I am Latina Smart.
Yes. Jairo and The Universe had other plans. He released me (kissed Linda) because she (The Universe) wanted me free to succeed and live my dreams.
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