Honesty. It is an amazing quality to bestow, and I carry the no bullshit, straightforward gene with pride. I believe in being candid in every aspect of my life. Whether I’m telling Boo how I feel or I am discussing topics on my SiriusXM show, I call it how I see it and don’t hold anything back.
Transparency. This is another aspect of honesty that I respect and encourage. When you are transparent, there is no pretense or shady dealings and behavior. You simply speak and live in your truth; being transparent means that you are real and authentic.
Unfortunately, we encounter many people who are snakes in the grass. They speak half-truths and don’t tell you what they want. They say they care or love you to get in your pants, or your wallet. They text you out of the blue and want to hang out all of a sudden because they want something from you. They want intel but don’t tell you exactly why. Later you discover the real reason, and you can’t trust them anymore.
Those who lack transparency use you and go behind your back to get what they want, or they omit information. And I get it – when we are building a career or discovering who we are as a person or a partner, we often deceive others and ourselves. As my friend Vicky says, most of us are not 100 percent honest or ourselves with another, not even our partner. It’s hard to be transparent all the time. Sometimes we deceive and it is unintentional, other times it is calculated. The latter is what I have a problem with.
If we are transparent, we would all succeed and thrive in work and love.
Today that’s what I want to encourage. If you want something from your significant other, a friend or a fling, say so. If you need a professional connection or reference, speak up.
Be candid. Avoid indirect communication. Stop lying and using people for personal or professional gain. Be honest about who you are and what you want.
Be authentic. Be transparent. Hold nothing back.