As girls we are taught to “play house,” help with chores, nurture family and friends, go to school, get good grades and one day be successful; while men are taught to bring home the bacon and provide. We learned this from our mother’s who learned it from their mothers.
Personally, I witnessed Mami being the perfect housewife. She cleaned every day, took care of us and picked up after us – her kids and her husband – and that left little time or room for her to be more than a wife and mom. At almost 70 years old, I don’t think my mom has any other identity.
I have followed suit in a way. I try to be the perfect housewife. I clean (not every day, but I do clean), take care of Boo and my baby in the womb, cook, pick up our mess, and still manage to spend time with loved ones. Plus, I run a business and host a radio show on SiriusXM. It’s ALOT.
I am “doing it all.” It’s exhausting.
The everyday woman’s experience is exactly what’s depicted in this Ariel laundry detergent commercial. We see an Indian woman filling the same role. And her Dad observes her managing the chaos.
“I’m so sorry,” he says,” sorry that you have to do this alone.” “I will make an effort to help your mom with the household chores,” he says. “It’s time to set things right.”
By this point in the video, I am already sobbing. Not because washing dishes or cooking is a strenuous task, but because this father finally understands all that his wife, his daughter – women – do for their families. And all men should follow suit.