A lot of women have that one male best friend that they love to spend their time with. He always answers your calls and listens to your office gossip, even if he doesn’t care that you and your boss wore the same heels. He replies to your text messages in a timely manner. Soon, he is your plus at a wedding and you wonder, “Can he be more than just a friend?”
Suddenly, you see your favorite guy pal in a different light. His hair looks shinier. His smile brightens your day. And is it just you or is he hugging you a little tighter today? You may start to spend more time with him, thinking things are getting cozy, when he pumps the breaks on your fantasy.
That’s right, you’ve been “friend-zoned,” girl.
John David, a 24-year-old single man from Los Angeles, placed one of his female friends in this very box. “We started off as friends and I simply made it clear that I had no interest in dating her,” John admitted. “She clearly liked me more than I liked her. It was nice to hang out with her and talk about our similar interests but she wasn’t someone I could see dating.”
So he doesn’t see you as “the one.” Who can’t relate to that? Women do it to men all the time. However, there may be another reason why your guy pal placed you in just friends territory. Twenty-one year old Cal State East Bay soccer player George Garcia said that he will “friend zone” a girl whom he doesn’t find attractive.
“Not trying to be a dick, but I like having a close friend to talk to, especially chicks, they’re good for asking advice about others girls…”
Don’t be discouraged if your male BFF sees you as his personal love guru because you’re not his type. Maybe another friend does. Perhaps that one guy pal that you’re now crushing on doesn’t think you’re interested. 21-year-old Navy Corpsman Marcus Fleming said it best.
“Of the few girls I’m truly friends with, I’m sure they wouldn’t want more than that anyway.”
Or do they? Neither will know until one takes the chance because the “friend zone” is not a place of no return. George expands on this.
“It’s possible. Just probably takes time to really get to know her.”
San Fernando Valley local, Sonny De La Cuesta, 24, agrees. “A majority of the girls that I call ‘friends’ I could probably see myself being with.”
John, however, is sticking to his guns. He says of his friend-zoned girl friend, “Even if I was looking to date or find a girlfriend, she would not leave the friend zone. Sad, but true.” When asked if there was hope for other girls in the friend zone, he shined a light of hope.
“With enough time and perhaps a change of view, friends could be more than that… Never say never, but most girls should take the hint and move on.”
So, ladies, the question is this: is your guy friend worth the wait or shall you continue looking else where? The choice is yours.
Born and raised in the suburbs of Los Angeles, Felisa is a 22-year-old SoCal girl at heart who loves to write almost as much as she loves to talk. Within a year, she went from being in a serious five-year relationship to the single scene, which launched a passion for writing about about love, romance, and the dating scene.
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