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I Was a Hot Mess Yet He Still Chose Me

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I Was a Hot Mess Yet He Still Chose Me

When Sujeiry met Boo her life was in disarray. He chose her and fell in love with her anyway.

There’s nothing like a man who supports you. Whether he believes in you or celebrates your professional wins, having a significant other that is your personal cheerleader makes life easier.

Take me and Boo, for example. When we first began this romance a little over a year ago, my personal and professional life were in disarray. I had moved back to NYC from Los Angeles just two months shy of meeting him. By the time of our first date, I didn’t have a job anymore due to being bamboozled by a reality TV show. I didn’t have my own home anymore; instead, I lived at Mami’s in her apartment in Washington Heights.

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Needless to say, I was kind of a mess. I wasn’t sure if I was going to continue pursuing my career in radio and entertainment. On our first date I even told Boo that I was returning to school to get a second Masters – this time in education.  I did return briefly. During the summer of 2014, I took three classes so I could apply for a second certification in education. (I was once a teacher.) But I changed my mind again. I didn’t finish that second Masters degree because I didn’t want to teach. It was only a back up plan. One that I had crafted when I was desperate, depressed and afraid to fail in the profession that I love and adore: radio, writing and TV.

Now I think back at that time and wonder: if the shoe was on the other foot, would I have given myself a chance? Would any woman take a man seriously that didn’t have his shit together? When I met Boo, I was afraid he would reject me because of where I was in life, which I felt was no where. All my accomplishments meant nothing to me at the time because of where I was at the time. And I have plenty of friends that would reject a good man because he’s still figuring out his dollars and cents. Boo didn’t reject me. Through my confusion, indecision and wavering, Boo was there, decided to get to know me and fell in love with me. He didn’t quit me and, though he didn’t quiet understand how I came to be in the dire position that I was in professionally and financially, he stuck by me and supported me through it all.

Boo could have decided that I wasn’t the woman for him. We were early into our relationship; he could have made a clean break. He didn’t. He is the first man that I have ever loved that has not abandoned me. He met me when my world was falling apart yet he decided to become a part of it.

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Now, my career is back on track and my relationship with Boo is stronger every day. I can’t wait to keep shining and climbing professionally with my best friend, my lover, my boo right by my side.

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.


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