Currently knocked up, I’ve received a ton of unsolicited advice. From mothers of three to overly-eager Dads, they can’t keep their darn opinions to themselves. And I want to scream! Instead of being a polite woman that’s carrying what feels like a bowling ball in her uterus, I want to take Chrissy Teigen’s approach and tweet, “Get out of my uterus!”
I love the cojones on this woman.
Still, it’s a shame that mothers can’t let me and Chrissy Teigen be great. (She’s my BFF in my head.) Teigen is actually preparing for the hate-a-rade. She’s stacked on armor to protect herself from nasty comments – and tweeted as much.
As you can see, I am already dreading all overly critical parenting articles to come in my life!
— christine teigen (@chrissyteigen) February 18, 2016
Isn’t pushing out a baby (and possibly getting ripped and stitched) enough to let her be? Instead of tearing Chrissy down, why can’t mothers unite? We don’t have to hold hands and sing Kumbaya, but — my Lord — why do we insist on dictating what women can and cannot do in all aspects of life?
Because women judge each other — harshly. So we compensate and try do it and have it all, but it’s not possible. As Amy Westervelt wrote in this HuffPost article, “This whole ‘having it all’ business has been grossly misinterpreted by our society at large. Doing all of it at the same time was never the idea.” When we try to be super mom and amazingly sexy wife, and have a killer career, well, we might as well drown. And I don’t want Chrissy Teigen to drown!
Other female celebs have also spoken out about the societal pressures of motherhood. Christina Aguilera recently told Women’s Health that “mothers are constantly expected to be the nurturers, the givers, the providers of a comfortable home.” Aside from being pregnant, enduring labor and breastfeeding, there’s also societal pressure to snap back. “We’re expected to look amazing after baby, right?” Aguilera continued. “Keep our husbands and boyfriends interested — because we’re supposed to get back to sexy and keep things exciting in the bedroom. There’s such a long list.”
Yes, the list is long and almost impossible. So I beg you, ladies; allow Chrissy and I to make mistakes, learn from them and continue to be an awesomely funny and candid women — with baby in tow. (We’re so hanging out together one day!) Support her in this new role and journey. And, if you do pass judgement, “you better unlock your profile so I can see your perfection,” Chrissy tweeted. My baby boy in utero agrees.