That’s what I’ve been experiencing lately. My career is booming (I now have writing contracts with Vista Magazine, Babble, Moms.me, MSN Latino, and then some). And it wasn’t too long ago that I asked the Universe for a relationship with a man who was my friend, first and foremost.
In came my now ex, Paco. He and I began as friends. I could talk to him about anything. But, after a while, the intimacy and romantic connection didn’t grow into love.
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Then it hit me: I had asked very specifically for a man who is my friend. I didn’t ask for love, connection, intimacy or passion. And so I only really got a friend. As for my career, it’s going so well that I work seven days a week. I am blessed but exhausted.
Something’s gotta give.
So, today I will change my tune. When I get home from my day job as Senior Producer of Relationship Content for Loop21, I will say aloud, “I am my own boss and will succeed on my own. It begins in August.”
As I type at this instant, I am whispering this into existence:
“I am going to marry a man who adores me, loves me, and is enamored with me…just as I am with him. And we will have an amazing partnership that consists of a strong foundation, including trust, commitment, dependability and friendship. He will feel passion for me as I for him. We will laugh together and be each others comrades. And we will build a life and family together, as if we were meant only for each other.”
And so it shall be.