That’s right, it doesn’t. Trust me, like Beyonce, I have tried to be flawless. Instead, I end up looking and feeling like this.
I am impulsive, emotional, impatient, passionate, kind, spontaneous, forgetful, efficient, loyal, thoughtful, selfish, driven and at times, lackadaisical. You may notice that some of these qualities contradict each other. Some of these qualities also aren’t stellar.
That’s okay though. I – we – are multifaceted. To expect anything than to be a human full of depth, sin, ugliness, beauty (and then some) it’s unrealistic and straight up detrimental to our love of self. If we go out into the world hoping to meet the perfect man or woman, the love that will do us no harm and do no wrong, we will end up disappointed and alone.
I know I am good because God is good with me. When I am hard on myself or constantly try to “fix what’s wrong with me,” I will remind myself that God is good with me.
Now, I ain’t saying some personal development isn’t necessary. A person that doesn’t grow is like a dead tree. Just don’t kill yourself to be the “perfect” version of yourself; that person doesn’t exist. In the end, trying to do better and be better is enough. And it should be enough for your significant other.