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#RelationshipFail: Trying to Be Perfect

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#RelationshipFail: Trying to Be Perfect

#RelationshipFail: Trying to Be Perfect

Trying to do better and be better should be enough. Because it is.

That’s right, it doesn’t. Trust me, like Beyonce, I have tried to be flawless. Instead, I end up looking and feeling like this.

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Which is why in my relationship with Boo I have done anything and everything possible to be the “perfect” woman for him. That isn’t fair to me and, honestly, that woman also isn’t me.

I am impulsive, emotional, impatient, passionate, kind, spontaneous, forgetful, efficient, loyal, thoughtful, selfish, driven and at times, lackadaisical. You may notice that some of these qualities contradict each other. Some of these qualities also aren’t stellar.

That’s okay though. I – we – are multifaceted. To expect anything than to be a human full of depth, sin, ugliness, beauty (and then some) it’s unrealistic and straight up detrimental to our love of self. If we go out into the world hoping to meet the perfect man or woman, the love that will do us no harm and do no wrong, we will end up disappointed and alone.

I know I am good because God is good with me. When I am hard on myself or constantly try to “fix what’s wrong with me,” I will remind myself that God is good with me.

Now, I ain’t saying some personal development isn’t necessary. A person that doesn’t grow is like a dead tree. Just don’t kill yourself to be the “perfect” version of yourself; that person doesn’t exist. In the end, trying to do better and be better is enough. And it should be enough for your significant other.

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.


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