I think it’s time to consider whether our standards are too high regarding dating. Some of our standards are even unrealistic. Many women have a laundry list of needs and desires. It’s not a bad thing. We should all know what we want. But this list can be so detailed that one man won’t be able to fulfill you in a relationship.
I fell victim to this. At one time, I would only date baseball players. I let every other guy go. I ruined many potentially successful relationships because they didn’t play ball. This type of recklessness and pickiness can cost us in love.
I’ve changed my ways. A baseball player is not all that makes a man, or even a great relationship. I should have been looking for chemistry, not his sports stats. I should have sought out trust and compatibility. These traits are what makes for a great foundation in a relationship. The way he dresses, the car he drives, and his profession doesn’t make him who he is as a man or as a partner.
So, don’t expect a man to fulfill the requirements on your insane list. If he makes you happy and satisfies your needs, don’t dump him because he isn’t a six-foot-three baseball player. Learn to distinguish between a necessity and a desire in a relationship. Yes, we deserve the best, but in the game of love we need to know when to wave that white flag and make peace.
Erynn Castellanos is an aspiring radio broadcaster with an opinion on all things love. Currently going through the trials of most twenty somethings, she balances life and relationships and knows what she wants. Her articles on LoveSujeiry.com tie in her personal experiences while exploring the early stages of dating and the single life.
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