Whether we choose to admit it or not, from looks to personality, we all have an idea of the “perfect man.” I want a man who is tall so I can wear heels and he still towers over me. I prefer Caucasian men with light eyes. I always fall victim to a man with a killer smile and a contagious laugh. I’m also attracted to a man who can hold a conversation, one who is witty and charming. This is my “type.”
However, if you saw my ex, you’d think I am attracted to a different kind of man. While he was taller than me even with my heels on, everything else was off the mark. He is Mexican and German with brown hair and brown eyes. Although, during our five-year relationship, we never ran out of things to talk about, he was my exception. And that’s okay.
Every woman should date a guy who isn’t her type at least once in her life. If you don’t, you may be limiting yourself. Also, if you continue to date the same type of man, you will often get the same results. Your love life will just become an endless cycle. And that’s no fun.
You know what is? Trying something new. It may break a bad relationship pattern or even amount to an amazing relationship with an amazing man. Or, like in my case, you may learn an important lesson. This man who wasn’t my type was one the most important relationships I have had thus far. Although it didn’t work out in the end, I learned a lot from that relationship. It was an eye-opening experience. I broke away from my norm. Due to our bad breakup, I also learned to never date a man like him again.
So, whether your type is holding you back or you just need to venture out to learn a lesson, dating outside our type is essential for the personal growth of a woman. You never know – a promising relationship could just be waiting for you. Shake up your dating routine, or you’ll never know what you’re missing.
Born and raised in the suburbs of Los Angeles, Felisa is a 22-year-old SoCal girl at heart who loves to write almost as much as she loves to talk. Within a year, she went from being in a serious five-year relationship to the single scene, which launched a passion for writing about about love, romance, and the dating scene.
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