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Is My Appearance Keeping Nice Guys Away?

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Is My Appearance Keeping Nice Guys Away?

Women love a bad boy appearance, but when roles are reversed a woman gets no action.

With countless tattoos and multiple facial piercings I am beginning to wonder if I am scaring nice guys away. I’ve dated a parade of tattoo artists, musicians and straight weirdos, but now I am ready to date the “boy next door.” You know, the guy in the polo shirt with the office job.

To meet him, should I shove up my septum ring up my nose and start wearing argyle sweaters? As things get hot and heavy and my shirt flies off, should I tell him I was held down by a group of psychos who tatted me just like in “American Horror story: Freak Show”? Or should I just be me – tattoos and all – and hope to meet a nice guy just as I am?

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The struggle is real.

There is a stigma that a girl like me must be on drugs or have some serious dependency issues. The truth is I don’t even drink alcohol. I do enjoy instant coffee, but I swear I’ve never snorted it. I practice clean eating, own a house, a car (and it’s not in the shop) and I also have a stellar career. I’m a great catch. Men just have to get past my exterior, an exterior that I happen to like.

It’s such a double standard: women love a bad boy appearance but when roles are reversed a woman gets no action.

What’s a girl to do? This girl is going to keep hoping for the “guy next door.” A good, clean-cut guy that has the balls to date me despite my alternative style. I want a man who isn’t afraid to take me home to momma. I want to be a part of someone’s crazy family and wear ugly sweaters on Christmas.

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Thing is I won’t change who I am for any man, and a man who is worth my time would never ask me to change. I’ll be waiting.

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Tabitha Bauman

Living in the suburbs of Philadelphia, Tabitha is a self-proclaimed free spirit who travels extensively throughout the USA. She has a bold writing style and offers her insight on love, dating and relationships on and She writers from her own experience as an independent woman exposed to the world of modern-day dating. Her goal is to enable women to value themselves above all else and find happiness in this great big world.


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