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Why Ghosting Is Sometimes the Only Way Out

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Why Ghosting Is Sometimes the Only Way Out

Why Ghosting Is Sometimes the Only Way Out

Ghosting is still rude as hell, but in certain circumstances is it our only choice? Maybe.

I’ve been ghosted, yo. Like, many, many times. I was ghosted before the term “ghosting” was even a thing. And it hurt every…single…time.

Whether the guy that ghosted was someone I slept with or not, or a man that I went on a few dates with and I kind of liked, being ghosted fucked with my already poor self-worth. It’s a cruel way to treat a gal, especially one that pretended to be confident and sexy and oh so unbothered. Thing is men can smell the bullshit. So can women. I wasn’t in the right headspace to be in a loving and healthy relationship because I did not believe at my core that I deserved a loving and healthy relationship. So I attracted men that ghosted. Like Houdini.

When it happened I would find ways to cope (see: Bacardi and Coke and flirting with bartenders). I didn’t have memes like this to help me laugh off the heartache.

I just wanted to scream at Casper the Unfriendly Ghost (the man that ghosted), “Get some cojones!”

Once it sunk in, however, I realized that ghosting might have been the only way to break things off. Cause I can be stubborn and would often try to convince the men that I really liked but who weren’t that into me that they could be into me. It’s still rude as hell, but in certain circumstances is ghosting our only choice? Maybe. Some men and women force our hand. Here are some reasons to ghost a love interest.

He hurt you

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Whether it’s a hurtful ex, a toxic relationship or someone you’ve dated off and on, it’s your choice to cut them out of your life however you choose. If you’ve had enough of their mind games and struggle to let go of a nasty relationship or pattern, maybe you need to ghost them. Sometimes talking through the gunk doesn’t get you anywhere, especially if someone continually hurts you. That’s when you do like Casper the Unfriendly Ghost and boo-unce.

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of LoveSujeiry.com. She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto LoveSujeiry.com - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on Latina.com works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.

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