This is what my love life consisted of in my 20s: choosing the wrong men (bad boys, the unattainable, the emotionally unavailable), seeking love outside myself, and utilizing my tear ducts to their full potential. Now that I have perspective, I can take note of these lessons. Lessons that I’ll share with my future daughter and now with you.
1. Mami Is Usually Right
I hate to admit it, but Mami was often right. At 22, she told me I wouldn’t find a husband on the dance floor. I ignored her wisdom. For most of my 20s, Bacardi was my BFF and I dated men that I met at clubs. None of them wanted a real relationship. All of them wanted to party every weekend. So, listen to your mommas even if they have no concept of what’s cool. Mami may not work a cell phone (she can’t even text) but she does know what’s best for her little girl.
2. RuPaul Is Also Right
RuPaul says, “If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?” Read the rest on NBC Latino.