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3 Lessons I’ve Learned from the Bad Boys I’ve Dated

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3 Lessons I’ve Learned from the Bad Boys I’ve Dated

Bad boys. Women love them even when they shouldn’t. There is a silver lining to the heartache. Here are three lessons I’ve learned from bad boys I’ve dated.

Bad BoyBad boys don’t make us feel good for long.

Bad boys. We can’t live with ’em or without ’em. Their appeal is universal. Their poison is addictive albeit hurtful.

I should know. I’ve had my share of bad boys. I’ve yearned for their bad behavior, smooth moves, and mind fucks. What can I say? I was a masochist. If you played hard to get, you were mine for the taking. If you were fickle, I wanted to divide and conquer like you were a foreign land to pillage. I was the conquistador and he (the bad boy of the moment) was America!!!

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Yes, I was insane. But there is a silver lining; I discovered many things from bad boys about love, sex and dating. Here are three lessons that I learned from bad boys.

1. Men can’t be changed.
As much as we want to believe this, it won’t happen! You could be the best thing that ever happened to him, but only he can rid himself of his bad boy ways.

2. Every woman thinks she’s special.
So we all believe we are “the one” that will turn him around. “I’m awesome!” “He won’t want to lose me!” “He’s never met a girl like me before!” “Did I mention I’m awesome?” Yes, you did. And so did the girl before you and the girl before her and probably the one before that. We all think we are that special girl that he will commit to. But you won’t be! See number 1.

3. Potential doesn’t make a man, or a relationship.
So he did a great thing that one time. But one time shouldn’t be enough. A great man who is ready to commit treats you with love and respect often and consistently. Those glimpses of adoration and trust won’t create a solid, beautiful picture, no matter how much you convince yourself otherwise.

So, stop trying to conquer bad boys into submission. Let them be who they are and find a real man to pillage.

Tell us. What have you learned from your tryst with bad boys?


Photo Credit: Flickr.com/Emmanuelecontini.

Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of LoveSujeiry.com. She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto LoveSujeiry.com - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on Latina.com works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.

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