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Is it Me?! 3 Reasons Why He Can’t Keep It Up

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Is it Me?! 3 Reasons Why He Can’t Keep It Up

You’re getting hot and heavy and he goes limp! Here’s what may be wrong.

You’re getting hot and heavy with a man. He goes in hard and is about to go deep when suddenly nothing happens. It’s as limp as an overcooked noodle. He makes a few weak attempts to get it in which just makes the whole situation awkward, especially if it’s the first time you’re hooking up.

What’s really going on here? It’s happened to the prettiest of us. Personally, this guy looked up at me and said, “It’s you, not me!” Fuck man, I knew I shouldn’t have eaten that donut this morning! I thought. But, was it really my fault? When a guy can’t get it up is it you?

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Elizabeth Clark, CRNP, said there could be several things going on, and none of them have to do with you. Here is why he can’t keep it up!

He has consumed too much alcohol.

Yes, ladies, alcohol is actually a depressant. If he has too much to drink, he will have difficulty keeping an erection. Blame the seven Coronas he drank before he took you to bed.

He suffers from depression, anxiety or a mental health condition.

According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness, 1 in 5 adults are diagnosed with a mental illness every year. If you are just getting to know someone, the chances that he is going to tell you that he has a mental condition are slim. As a side note, sometimes people suffering from these conditions are prescribed MAOI Inhibitors. One of the side effects is decreased sexual desire and inability to orgasm.

He has a confidence issue.

Sometimes it is much less serious than anything listed above. Your man may just have a good old case of nervousness. He may have been anticipating the moment so much and for so long that he freaks himself out. Let’s face it: no man wants to under perform. Especially if he really a woman. Maybe he couldn’t get it up because he stressed himself out, wondering what you were thinking and if he was pleasing you.

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If you’re hooking up with a guy and it goes limp, remember:  chances are it’s all about him. So don’t feel bad or like you’re not sexy enough or good enough. He may have a lot more going on than he is willing to share. Just let him know that it’s cool and don’t take it personal. It really does happen to the best of us.

Tabitha Bauman

Living in the suburbs of Philadelphia, Tabitha is a self-proclaimed free spirit who travels extensively throughout the USA. She has a bold writing style and offers her insight on love, dating and relationships on LoveSujeiry.com and TheDatingMix.com. She writers from her own experience as an independent woman exposed to the world of modern-day dating. Her goal is to enable women to value themselves above all else and find happiness in this great big world.

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