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How to Get a Friend to Be Your Friends with Benefits

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How to Get a Friend to Be Your Friends with Benefits

Have a friend you’ve been eyeing and want to get some? Here’s some advice on how to suggest being friends with benefits.

Almost KissIf you want to get a little freaky, maybe a friend will do the trick.

When single, we all get a little lonely. Not the “I need to be with someone” kind of lonely but the “I’m in my big bed all alone tonight and I need some action” kind. Perhaps you’re just starting to enjoy the single life and just want to have some fun. Maybe you’ve been single for some time now but you haven’t had sex since your ex. Whatever the reason, you may find yourself physically attracted to one of your good buddies.

But all you want is a physical relationship that won’t compromise your friendship. You want a friends-with-benefits deal, but how do you suggest it?

It’s time for the “friends with benefits” talk. When you’re looking for a friend to hookup with with no strings attached, you’re going to have to discuss the guidelines. Sure, you can hook-up with him and chat about it later, but your safest bet is to be clear about your intentions.

Find out if he’s seeing someone or interested in anyone. Not because you want to date him. You just want to make sure you don’t ruin his chances at a real relationship. If he’s interested in dating a girl, he’s probably not the best choice  because he wants more than just sex. If he’s single and ready to mingle, going out to bars and picking up women, he may be interested in what you’re offering.

[ALSO READ: Reoccurring Exes: What to Do When He Keeps Coming Back]

Lead into the suggestion. Ask him how dating is going. Ask him if he’s been hooking up with random girls (if so, you might want to have him tested before getting freaky). Then casually hint at the fact that it’s cold outside and you’re feeling lonely. If he agrees or even suggests you can keep each other warm, he may be a great bed fellow.

Give him a “hypothetical” scenario of your friends with benefits deal.  Say something like this: “I wish I could find a guy who I can trust, like you even, and just hook-up with without emotional entanglements or commitment. Just sex. We could still be friends, hang out, and talk like we do but hookup from time to time without worrying about it being awkward, you know?” If he agrees and buys into the idea, you can then say, “Well, if you’re looking for a friend to have fun with and I’m looking for a friend to have fun with, why don’t we have fun together?”

It really is that easy. Just keep in mind, ladies, that it is just sex. I can’t stress this enough. Make sure this is clear from the very beginning or someone will be hurt. And that’s just no fun.

How have you approached a friends with benefits relationship?

Born and raised in the suburbs of Los Angeles, Felisa is a 22-year-old SoCal girl at heart who loves to write almost as much as she loves to talk. Within a year, she went from being in a serious five-year relationship to the single scene, which launched a passion for writing about about love, romance, and the dating scene.


Photo Credit: Flickr Creative Commons.

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Born and raised in the suburbs of Los Angeles, Felisa is a 23-year-old SoCal girl at heart. She loves to write almost as much as she loves to talk, and within a year she went from being in a serious five-year relationship to the single scene. When she's not in school you can usually find Felisa around Phoenix, learning something new about the city and herself.

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