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Roles During Sex: Are You a Top or a Bottom?

Roles During Sex: Are You a Top or a Bottom?
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Roles During Sex: Are You a Top or a Bottom?

Are you a top or a bottom? And what does it all mean? A study reveals we apply heterosexual ideals on sexual roles for all relationships.

Picture this conversation. One friend says, “Dude, you’re totally a bottom!” The other scoffs and retorts, “And you’re totally a top.” But, what exactly do these terms mean anyway?

These terms are used in the gay community to identify roles during sex. “The bottom” describes a more submissive role whereas “the top” is the dominant role. The bottom is supposed to be more feminine while the top is more male. We use these terms because, according to a recent article published by Archives of Sexual Behavior, people still apply heterosexual gender roles to all sexual relationships.

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So, people interpret all relationships through the heterosexual lens.

I get why. We’ve all grown up thinking “hetero.” It’s ingrained in us to look at everything from a male/female perspective. The other part of me wants to yell at someone because the gay community doesn’t need us straight people telling them to act more like us. They have their own rules and perceptions when it comes to dating and relationships, so why put them in a box? As a matter a fact, maybe as a female I am a top. Cause sex is never black and white.

 

 

Ani Chakiryan

Ani Chakiryan is a 23-year-old Los Angelina, born and raised. She spends most of her time with her nose in a book, writing shorts stories and baking cupcakes. Follow her delicious tales and treats on Limani Cupcakes.

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