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Is Breakup Sex a Good Idea When You’re Horny AF?

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Is Breakup Sex a Good Idea When You’re Horny AF?

Is Breakup Sex a Good Idea When You’re Horny AF?

Breakup sex can be amazing if those icky feelings don’t get in the way.

Call me guilty, estupida or just plain horny: I’ve fallen victim to breakup sex. I use the word “victim” because I was not to blame for my vagina’s craving of familiar penis. Like salsa singer La India croons, “La costumbre es mas fuerte que el amor!” And when it came to breakup sex, my habitual existence had me calling an ex at midnight so I could get some.

It happens to the best of us. Still, during mid-thrust I’d wonder: is breakup sex a good idea? An ex would be on his A game and I’d be all up in my head analyzing the pros, cons and consequences of lying with a former lover. You know what I discovered? (Aside the fact that breakup sex isn’t as enjoyable when I’m all reflective.) Breakup sex can be ah-mazing – a smart choice, even! – if those icky things called feelings don’t get in the way.

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I still love you

If you’re sleeping with your ex and still have feelings for him, it’s not a good idea to exchange bodily fluids. There’s this thing called Oxytocin – a chemical in our brains that triggers loving feelings – and said chemical is released when we orgasm. Imagine how hooked you’ll be when sleeping with an ex? Unless you don’t ever orgasm with him and never really have. In that case, what’s the point of sleeping with him anyway? I say, good riddance!

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That vaginal power

Some women sleep with an ex to get him back. “My coochie has magical powers,” you say. And you believe it. Take it from me who also thought her vagina was the anecdote to promiscuity, don’t bed your ex to manipulate him into falling in love with you via your vage. Just because he loves her doesn’t mean he loves you.

Fearing another notch on you belt

I used to engage in breakup sex because I didn’t want my number of sexual partners to rocket like the stock exchange. That may be a good enough reason for you; it was for me.

So, what’s the word? Should you have breakup sex? The answer is simple: sleep with an ex if it makes you feel good – not to get him back or prove something. And remember that engaging in a sexual relationship with your ex can hinder you from moving on all together. If you want to meet a new man, you have to get you some new peen. 

Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of LoveSujeiry.com. She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto LoveSujeiry.com - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on Latina.com works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.

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