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3 Ways to Make Sex Better When He’s Bad in Bed

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3 Ways to Make Sex Better When He’s Bad in Bed

Dating a dud? Don’t dump him just yet! Some advice on how to up his sex game.

If you’re like me, you take your time and get to know the guy you’re dating before you have sex. I want to feel butterflies and  build anticipation. So when the moment arrives, I am literally tearing off his clothes.

Typically, I make a guy wait about a month. That way I have 30 days to fantasize about him. I imagine he will be well endowed and that he’s going to go be the best sex of my life. Then reality hits. It’s not the best I’ve ever had. In fact, it’s the worst. My fantasy has been shattered!

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One guy I had sex with made a terrible sound when he was about to ejaculate. You know how kids accidentally hold their guinea pig too tightly and it screeches? This guy sounded like that guinea pig. His bitch noises were followed by curse words. And he cursed throughout the duration of his orgasm.

Fuck Tabitha, shit, oh fuck!

He screamed that at the top of his lungs. Even worse: his package was approximately four inches. It wasn’t like he was getting me off.

And yet, I didn’t end the relationship. I had my reasons. Here’s why you should keep dating him even if the sex is whack:

Take the lead.

This means you have to be aggressive. You know what you like in the bedroom so show him how to please you. Put his hand where you like to be touched. It will turn him on. Plus, you are communicating your sexual needs without hurting his ego.

Work with what he’s got.

Not all men were created equal. If your new guy isn’t packing, don’t sweat it. Instead, try different positions until you find the position that feels good. The last time I had sex with the four-inch guy I had an amazing orgasm. It was all in the positioning. It is different for every woman so have fun until you find a position that guarantees the Big O.

Build him up.

If he has a small package and he doesn’t know what he’s doing, chances are he’s not confident. As you teach him how to move and touch you, build his confidence. Tell him that he’s sexy and you desire him. Tell him he was worth the wait.

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Remember: you will always meet a guy who’s great in bed but is a douche bag. My phone is filled with them. Awesome guys with good personalities, on the other hand, are hard to come by. When you find one keep him. Sex can always be taught and mastered. The more you practice with your new guy and teach him what you like, the more he will please you.

Tabitha Bauman

Living in the suburbs of Philadelphia, Tabitha is a self-proclaimed free spirit who travels extensively throughout the USA. She has a bold writing style and offers her insight on love, dating and relationships on LoveSujeiry.com and TheDatingMix.com. She writers from her own experience as an independent woman exposed to the world of modern-day dating. Her goal is to enable women to value themselves above all else and find happiness in this great big world.

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