I am constantly thinking of ways to help my boyfriend progress. Some may say that’s very Type A but I see it less as being pushy and controlling and more as being resourceful and dedicated. I think this need stems from my XX chromosomes. My female counterparts will probably agree that we, as women, are natural communicators, planners, and nurturers. Even the most lackadaisical pepita will book a flight in advance or make concrete dinner plans for a romantic night out. Even the most detached female will find a solution when a loved one is in need. They may not rub your back when you cry but they still have your back.
Lets say a man states he wants to become a lawyer. His woman will probably contact all her lawyer friends and ask questions about everything from the LSAT to law school to the job market. Lets say a man is in danger of being laid off. In minutes, his woman is on the computer, googling about unemployment benefits and offering her resume building skills. Lets say a man has come down with the flu. His woman will not only make the doctors appointment but will also rub him down with Vivaporu and make sure he takes the medication that is required.
What would men do without us!
I am now filling this role. Not having been in a relationship for 4 years, I had forgotten how great it feels to be someones partner. That is what women see a relationship as: a partnership. That is why we want to prep him for that job interview, send emails with images of the dream home he constantly talks about, and text him reminders to take out the trash.
Okay. Maybe the latter is being pushy but you catch my drift.
So men, be grateful that you have a beautiful, supportive, opinionated woman by your side. It’s either that or a lonely, sporadic, snot-filled existence. As for me, I’m going to continue doing what comes naturally. Whether my boyfriend asks for my help or not, I am here to love him and support him. I am here to rub his back and have his back always and all ways.