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Women Want Men To Feel Their Misery


Women Want Men To Feel Their Misery

Women are empathetic creatures. We provide a shoulder to cry on and a listening ear. We experience other’s pain so deep that we even sob along when fictional characters lose loved ones (that scene in Grey’s Anatomy when Izzy loses Denny to heart disease is a killer). Men, on the other hand, chest bump and shrug the misery off. Their mate has a scowl because a friend said she needed to lose weight. Shrug. Their wife is upset that Courtney is still on The Bachelor. Pat on the back. It’s empathy at its manliest.

So, it would make sense that women want their boyfriends and/or husbands to feel their misery, right?

According to a study, that seems to be the case.

Diverse samples of couples were studied and it was discovered that men and women perceive empathy differently. Researchers used 156 heterosexual couples for the experiment. The study concluded that the more men and women try to be empathetic to their partner’s feelings, the happier the couple is in their relationship. It doesn’t necessarily mean that the partner has to be empathic. Faking it, this time, also works.

The belief that your husband and/or boyfriend is trying to understand your feelings seems to be enough. A woman want to see her man upset when she is upset, even if he doesn’t understand why she is upset. This is why so many women feel dissatisfied, rejected and confused when men withdraw emotionally, especially when there is conflict. Seeing a man upset when we are upset makes us feel that our partners are emotionally invested.

Bottomline, women want men to feel and express the misery they are feeling. Misery loves company, after all. So, gentlemen, take a seat on the couch, flick on Grey’s Anatomy and start the waterworks.

Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.


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