We have been taught to believe from an early age that men use women for sex. This definitely still holds true, but men have now realized that we have a lot more to offer. And that they could use us for a lot more than what’s between our legs!
The men I want to address here are the opportunists. This is the type of man that preys on the independent woman. Do you have a great job? Own a home? Have a car? Fabulous! You are the perfect gal! A man who is an opportunist loves a woman that has her shit together. It just screams “this boss bitch can support me!”
How do you know if your guy is just into you for a free ride (sometimes literally!)? Here are five signs that he’s using you – and not for sex!
He rushed into the relationship quickly.
If someone is super eager to start a relationship with you, and they barely know you, it’s a red flag. Healthy relationships are build over time and with a solid foundation. If he is pushing you to hang out every day and sleepover every night, it can indicate he has no friends, no ambition and no life! Your friends may point out that this is happening because it doesn’t come across as romantic; it’s actually alarming.
He calls or texts you when he needs something.
You’re sitting at home waiting for your handsome new crush to text you. Suddenly, your phone rings and he asks, “Hey, what are you doing?” “Nothing,” you respond within nanoseconds. His response? He’s asking for a favor. Even if it’s a small favor this still indicates that he doesn’t care what you are doing. He wants to know that you are available to help him. This text is all about what you can do for him. When the phone rings, it’s the same thing. A man who is an opportunist and just using you will make general conversation and within the first few minutes, ask for a favor.
He doesn’t currently have a car or a place to live.
Both of these are huge red flags that your guy is a user. If a guy is crashing on a friend’s couch or his car is being worked on forever, run! Trust me, RUN! If I had a dollar for every time a guy told me his car was in the shop, I would be living in a mansion on an island. Let me break it down for you another way: you’re new love is homeless and can’t even sleep in his car because he doesn’t have one. This type of man will seek you out because you can offer him a stable home and use of your vehicle.
He asks for money and never pays you back.
If a guy is asking you for money on a daily or weekly basis, girl please, tell this broke ass to get a job or two if the first isn’t cutting it. When a man asks a woman for money, he has no ego. And I am pretty sure he isn’t taking you out on the town. Don’t you get tired of paying for dinner dates? He isn’t tired of you paying. You are his built-in ATM with a vagina. You work hard for your money. Leave the lending to Lending Tree!
He has no source of income.
This is the most obvious sign. If he is unemployed, he has no source of income. This is usually followed by having nowhere to live and a car “in the shop.” I know some of these guys have game, telling you they have a little side hustle or a creative venture. If that’s the case, he wouldn’t be couch crashing!
Bottom line, as a beautiful and independent woman, you will attract all different types of men. Don’t be outsmarted by the opportunist! If you’re dating one right now, say no every time he asks you for something. Soon enough, he will push you away or dump you because you are no longer supporting his sneaky, broke ass. Good riddance!