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Why You Should End an Off and On Relationship Cycle

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Why You Should End an Off and On Relationship Cycle

We allow others to love us and treat us the way we think we deserve to be loved and treated.

Some men break up with a woman and assume she’ll sit around pining for his love, hoping he’ll soon realize that she’s a good woman. Some men also take advantage of the situation (and your feelings) and try to have their cake and eat it too. They come in and out of your life without remorse, and because you are such a good woman, it’s hard to break the cycle.

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These men will break up with you, say they aren’t ready for a relationship, or give you some other excuse. For them it’s easy. They go about their life doing whatever they want with whomever they want thinking you will always be there. Once you no longer respond to their antics, they make a comeback to reel you back in. This is where the tough love comes in. As much as it hurts, you have to reject this off/on relationship. If not, he will continue to play this game, and hurt you twice as much the next time he leaves.

I know that ending this off/on cycle is easier said than done. When in love you want to believe in the person, but you have to think with your head – not your heart. You’re the one in control of your feelings. You have the power to stop accepting his unacceptable behavior or to get sucked in. You need to be selfish. You need to protect your heart. You need to stop believing his words and believe in his inconsistent actions.

We allow others to love us and treat us the way we think we deserve to be loved and treated. Love yourself enough to say, “Enough is enough.”

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Remember: a man who truly loves you and wants to be with you won’t play games. He’ll make you are a priority.

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Former TV producer and current Entertainment journalist for local and national publications covering nightlife, music, and fashion, Victoria has a passion for the written word. A small town girl livin’ it up in Miami running her own Marketing & PR company - ITM Media - she is heavily involved in the media industry. From event management to artist relations, she does it all and loves it. She has an old-fashioned meets modern world-view on all things love, dating, relationships, and single motherhood, and loves being an independent Latina. When she’s not writing about sex and dating for LoveSujeiry, scoping out new artists for Just Breezies, or covering Miami’s nightlife for her own lifestyle site, ViqueInTheMix, she’s being a “Momager” to her overly active son. She believes that with love and kindness anything is possible. Read Vique’s posts HERE.


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