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Why Am I Still Single?! Relationship Expert and Coach Answers

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Why Am I Still Single?! Relationship Expert and Coach Answers

“Why am I still single?!”


Asked every single lady I’ve met and coached. 

I have many female friends who are obsessed with their relationship status. I can relate; I was that girl! In my 20’s, I really wanted to be loved. I really wanted a man. I really wanted to be wanted. My need was so overwhelming that I often dated and committed to men who were NOT WORTH MY TIME.

Someone sleazy, cheesy, “smooth”…a little like this.

Sleazy Latino Man

My ex (I call him “Luke”) was a 26-year-old Dominican philanderer. He also had a daughter who he often neglected and a nasty habit of checking out other women in front of me. I DIDN’T TRUST HIM FROM JUMP, but still decided to date him, bed him, and introduce him to my familia as my man!

I was desperate, I tell you.

Once I broke up with him (I stood up for myself and realized I’d lowered my standards) something clicked. I realized….

I CAN’T LIVE MY LIFE CHASING LOVE, MEN…JUST CHASING…

I HAVE TO KNOW WHAT I AM WORTH AND NOT SETTLE.

I CANNOT BE WITH A MAN BECAUSE OF POTENTIAL.

IF I CONTINUE WITH THIS NEED, THE IDEA THAT I CANNOT BE WHOLE WITHOUT A MAN, I WILL NEVER LOVE OR BE LOVED.

And we all just want to be loved.

So, why are you still single, mujer?

BECAUSE YOU ARE NEEDY, JADED, DESPERATE, INSECURE, UNSURE, and EMPTY.

Repeat this mantra daily to shake these negative feelings out of your system. Look at yourself in the mirror (really look) and say the following until you believe it.

I AM WORTH CHASING.

I AM WORTHY OF REAL, MATURE LOVE.

I DESERVE MORE THAN A MAN WITH POTENTIAL.

I AM LOVED.

As soon as you believe these things about you, your single status will just be a distant memory.

Need relationship advice? Having trouble finding confidence in dating? Do you always date the same men or make the same mistakes in relationships? Sign up for one of Sujeiry’s coaching packages.

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of LoveSujeiry.com. She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto LoveSujeiry.com - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on Latina.com works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.

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