I have to see the guy who ghosted on me on a daily basis. He was hired in very close quarters. I was so excited about this when we dated. Then he took some time off before starting the new job, and ghosted on me. I have to deal with this emotional mind fucker day in and day out!
It wasn’t supposed to happen like this. He would show up at my house with Ben and Jerry’s ice cream and we’d watch talk shows while wearing sweats. He texted me 24/7 and even hung out with me when I had my period. All signs an emotional connection was forming. And then, poof – he was gone.
Finally, I caught him alone. First, I played coy and approached him with a frivolous question about where some town was located. His guard was down, and that’s when I dropped the bomb!
“Why did you stop talking to me?!” His answer floored me. “You were becoming attached, I could see it in your eyes and through your actions,” he replied.
“Didn’t you like me?” I asked, shocked. He stuck the knife in deeper. “Not like that,” he admitted.
I was so hurt, but I took the low road, denying my feelings as if they hadn’t existed. I had to save face. Once again I was dishonest and said, “It’s not like I was in love with you!”
In the end, I got my closure. I now feel sorry for him. He has closed himself off to love, and had told me so many times and in many ways. This never had anything to do with me, and everything to do with the emotional baggage that he carries with him. I got the answers I needed and I will never look back.