Texting is so convenient yet it has complicated dating. There are mixed signals when texting. What did he mean by that emoticon? And of course there is the constant wondering: why hasn’t he text back? What does it all mean?!
Soon, we are bombarding our new guy with text messages. We expect him to reciprocate our smiley faces and lol’s. We want him to open up, text more and respond quickly. But, when is it too much? Here are five ways to avoid a texting overdose.
Give It a Break
If he stops responding after a while, give it a break. Chances are he saw the text and will text back. Remember he may be in a meeting at work or even on the subway. In NYC, there is no reception in most stations. He may be driving and you shouldn’t text and drive! So step away from the phone. Give him some time to return your text.
Note Cues That He Is Over Your Texting
When he responds with one-worded texts over and over again, he may be tired of texting. He’s hoping you end the conversation soon. Ladies, this is your cue to give it a rest.
“I’m Busy” May Mean I’m Over It
If most of his texts begin with, “I’m super busy,” he’s indicating that he doesn’t want to be on the phone. However, if this is a common occurrence, you need to know when to draw the line. Maybe he just isn’t that into you. In that case, stop texting him. If he is interested, he will come to you.
His Texting Pattern
Let’s say his texts aren’t stirring conversation. Yet you think before you type, making sure your texts make sense and sound “cool” (and grammatically correct) before you hit “send.” If this is the case, hold back a little. Not because you shouldn’t open up, but because he isn’t putting in the same effort. If you don’t hold back, you are on the verge of a texting overdose.
You Always Initiate Texts
If you are always initiating texts, this is a sign of a texting overdose. Why not hand over the reigns from time to time? That way he can also do some work. He should be just as invested in this budding relationship as you are. He may be but you may not be giving him the chance. If you really are texting him too much, he may set down the reigns for good.