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How Good It Is To Make Love (Or Is It Fucking?)

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How Good It Is To Make Love (Or Is It Fucking?)

The Difference Betwen Making Love and Having SexI had never made love before. I had never known the difference between fucking or loving. The pene goes inside the pepa™ all the same. Hips wind; faces contort; groins rise all the same. But making love is somehow different.

It hit me all at once the last time my boyfriend and I were intimate. He lay on top of me, his manhood inside of me, and our bodies rocked to the steady beat of our heartbeats. Suddenly, we stopped. Gazed into each others eyes as kisses were planted and lingered on eyelids, cheekbones, and lips. Seconds later, we continued our lovemaking. With eyes locked, we communicated non-verbally; our spirits expressing how fortunate we were to experience this moment in time.

So what constitutes love making? Is it a slow pace? Is it soft caresses and fingertip traces along curves? Love making can be all of these things. But it can also be quiet the opposite. Rough and rapid sex doesn’t always mean fucking, and it certainly doesn’t mean the intertwined couple isn’t in love. Contrary to what is depicted in Hollywood movies, the mechanics of sex and how we get our rocks off has little to do with the meaning of making love and fucking. Making love is about the emotional connection you have with your partner. It is about feeling safe enough to try and say anything between the sheets.

Making love comes down to trust.

I realized this as I reached climax. On top of him now, I felt a warm heat rise to fever pitch, a heightened sense of pleasure, and then…sweet release. But this time was different. Instead of hiding my face in the curve of his neck as I’ve done in the past, I met his gaze. I allowed him to see me – mouth open, hair tousled, eyes half open – in the midst of ecstasy. That is when we are truly naked. That is when we are vulnerable and we are open.

That very moment is what is at the core of making love.

Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of LoveSujeiry.com. She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto LoveSujeiry.com - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on Latina.com works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.

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