In mathematics, when the bottom number of a fraction is the same as the bottom number of another fraction it is called The Common Denominator. The fractions are different yet share this one equal counterpart. No matter what their value when divided and set as decimals, they will always have that one factor that connects them.
A common denominator also exits in relationships. If you look closely, it has always been there, penetrating each and every love affair, whether the romance was successful or not. Take my relationship history. Elijah was 21 and I was 26. He was heartbroken by his ex-girlfriend whom he’d been with for 4 years and I was just broken. Elijah then became distant once his ex-girlfriend resurrected, claiming she wanted to rekindle their love.
Our relationship ended soon after.
And the same situation occurred when I was with Johnny and the men before him.
A woman has always lingered in my relationships, which would lead most to believe that infidelity is my Common Denominator. But that isn’t the case. Infidelity is not the link and neither is abandonment or rejection. The Common Denominator just so happens to be me.
All the men I’ve dated have one thing in common: me. I am the thread that ties them together, no matter how many ways I multiply or divide or try to blame and explain why the relationships have failed. The answer is always the same. I attracted certain men into my life. I made the choice to let them love me…or not.
The Common Denominator is me.
So let us stop blaming others for our broken relationships and hearts and our unhealthy patterns. Instead, face yourself and your decision making skills. Who we allow in our lives is a direct reflection of who we are at the time. If you work on you and I work on me, The Common Denominator will morph into a positive number that is the sum of all our parts.