I never got the sex talk. Mami soothed my tummy when I first got my menstrual cycle and talked me through the pain while I lay in bed but her advice didn’t include the birds and the bees. Still, I managed to remain a virgin until the age of 23. I kept my pepa™ tight and protected by using condoms when I did become sexually active. And I did this all on my own.
Unfortunately, not all women value their pepas™ the same way that I do. Instead, they continue to allow unwrapped penes to enter their womb at an alarming rate. Whether they blame the alcohol or the naïveté of youth, the fact still stands that women are putting their lives at risk.
According to statistics, 65 million people are infected with an STD in the United States. About 65% of these cases are contracted by those under the age of 25. This dangerous trend is on the rise as there are 15 million new cases of sexually transmitted diseases every year. Incurable herpes leads the charge as the most common STD, affecting more women than men overall. Most women and men are unaware of these alarming statistics, which is why 1 in 4 Americans will or have contracted an STD.
Realistically, how can women protect themselves when they were never given the sex talk? How can young ladies respect themselves enough to either abstain, use condoms, or speak to their partner about testing when having reckless sex is depicted as the cool thing to do in media and reality shows? Case in point is the current season of “The Real World Las Vegas”. Imagine my disbelief at the most recent episode where 23-year-old Bronx native, Naomi Defensor, believes she is either pregnant or has an STD after feeling “a burning sensation” when peeing and attempting to have unprotected sex, yet again, with Leroy. This college educated woman put herself at risk, believing in someone else’s word.
So what can we do to redirect this trend? Continue to educate with posts like these and advocacy work. As a woman who loves her pepa™and has trusted in a man’s word, I too have had mini scares. Not as intense as the one Naomi had on national television but a scare nonetheless. But I have learned from my mistakes. Sex talk or no sex talk, I have become an informed and responsible adult. And everyone should do the same.
The health of our pepas™ and lives is our responsibility.