These aren’t the lyrics to an R&B song. It’s an argument, y’all!
Fighting is part of most relationships. If a couple doesn’t battle at one point or another, you tend to wonder if they’re normal. Or if they are reenacting a scene from The Stepford Wives. But how does one move on from the shouting and screaming? It’s all up to women, woman.
A recent UC Berkley study found that wives simmer down much quicker than men when arguing. Researchers analyzed about 80 couples’ videotaped interactions after disagreements. The wives ability to bounce back and regain composure after brawling made a huge impact on the relationship. Women happen to have the upper hand when it comes to managing negative emotions during conflict. And we can calm ourselves with more ease than men. This female quality helps a marriage flourish.
So, it seems I am well on my way to being marriage material. I can cook, clean and nurture. I am loving, faithful and loyal. And I can argue just like the best of them. I am also very good at diffusing situations and noting the error of my ways (when I am ever wrong, which is rare, of course). Instead of melodically hollering, “Love should have brought you home last night,” I express myself with poise and raw honesty, as if I were the Patti Labelle of love songs.
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