Papi wasn’t always around. On the contrary, he was predictably inconsistent. He was also very manly. A mechanic by trade, he often walked in with black grease covering his rough hands. He also had a temper that went along with his manly ideals. A woman cooked, cleaned and took care of the children. She also brought him his meal, utensils and glass of water included.
And don’t you forget to bring me a napkin, woman!
I blamed his macho attitude and somewhat sporadic bouts of affection on being a tipico Dominicano. But, after reading up on a new study that connects fatherhood with testosterone, there may be another reason.
A new study shows that, although testosterone naturally decreases with age, fatherhood leads to a much greater decline. The survey was comprised of 600 men from the Cebu Province of the Philippines. The testosterone was measured during the morning and the evening in 2005 and then again in 2009. The men were 21 and single when the study first began.
So what do these numbers mean? Consistent fathers who are physically present and spend more than three hours a day playing, bathing, feeding, or dressing their children, have lowest testosterone. This is not to say that they are weaklings, lacking in the aggressive and competitive outbursts that we associate with being “men”. On the contrary, I believe they have struck a perfect balance of feminine and masculine. Scientists also suggested that, though high testosterone helps in getting the girl, reduced testosterone is better for sustaining commitment and a healthy family life.
And there is my answer.
Papi wasn’t present much. He never changed a diaper or cleaned up baby puke. He was a manly man. A mechanic by trade who had no time to tend to his wife and children in a consistent manner. This predictably inconsistent father of mine must have had really high testosterone.
Either that or he was just a crappy father.