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Fatherhood and Testosterone: The Lower, The Better Husband and Dad

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Fatherhood and Testosterone: The Lower, The Better Husband and Dad

Wild SujeiryPapi wasn’t always around. On the contrary, he was predictably inconsistent. He was also very manly. A mechanic by trade, he often walked in with black grease covering his rough hands. He also had a temper that went along with his manly ideals. A woman cooked, cleaned and took care of the children. She also brought him his meal, utensils and glass of water included.

And don’t you forget to bring me a napkin, woman!

I blamed his macho attitude and somewhat sporadic bouts of affection on being a tipico Dominicano. But, after reading up on a new study that connects fatherhood with testosterone, there may be another reason.

A new study shows that, although testosterone naturally decreases with age, fatherhood leads to a much greater decline. The survey was comprised of 600 men from the Cebu Province of the Philippines. The testosterone was measured during the morning and the evening in 2005 and then again in 2009. The men were 21 and single when the study first began.

So what do these numbers mean? Consistent fathers who are physically present and spend more than three hours a day playing, bathing, feeding, or dressing their children, have lowest testosterone. This is not to say that they are weaklings, lacking in the aggressive and competitive outbursts that we associate with being “men”. On the contrary, I believe they have struck a perfect balance of feminine and masculine. Scientists also suggested that, though high testosterone helps in getting the girl, reduced testosterone is better for sustaining commitment and a healthy family life.

And there is my answer.

Papi wasn’t present much. He never changed a diaper or cleaned up baby puke. He was a manly man. A mechanic by trade who had no time to tend to his wife and children in a consistent manner. This predictably inconsistent father of mine must have had really high testosterone.

Either that or he was just a crappy father.


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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.


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