I was once in a relationship with a man I called Paco. He was my Facebook friend, as it should be, but he refused to make our relationship Facebook official. “I’m just a private guy,” he’d say when I asked him about it. “I even hide my relationship status so no one is in my business,” he’d reason.
But, I wanted people to know that I was his business! I wanted him to be proud that I was his girl, and shout “Sujeiry is miiiiine” like Bill did with Sooky in “True Blood.” I tried to explain how I felt without seeming like a needy, social-media obsessed girlfriend. There was no change. Paco and I never romantically connected Facebook profiles (or otherwise) and he never shared or posted one photo of us. That could explain why after only 6 months of dating, I thought, maybe I need to break up with him?
Actually, there were many more reasons why I wanted to terminate my relationship with Paco, but social media did make an impact. Popular to contrary belief, a couple that Facebook’s together, stays together. A University of Wisconsin-Madison study followed 180 heterosexual, college couples who were Facebook official (they listed themselves as ‘in a relationship’) and often shared couply photos on their Facebook wall. These couple were still an item after 6 months and it has something to do with their public declarations of love.
This makes complete sense. When Paco didn’t want to add me as his girlfriend on Facebook, I questioned how much he cared, and it also made me more insecure about our relationship. I felt like he was hiding me, not because I thought he was cheating but because he didn’t really take our relationship seriously.
I know what you’re thinking: Facebook shouldn’t matter, truly. But it does as social media is a big part of the world we live in now. We can’t escape it.
So ladies and gentlemen follow my advice and connect your loving profiles. It doesn’t really hurt a loving and healthy relationship. In fact, it may just help it last forever.
Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of LoveSujeiry.com. She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto LoveSujeiry.com - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on Latina.com works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.