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Stayover Relationships: Let’s Shack Up…Part Time

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Stayover Relationships: Let’s Shack Up…Part Time

Naughty BoyThe best thing about college was having a new found freedom that killed most mamis. My Mami in particular assumed I’d be boozing (correct) and sleeping with boys (also correct). Though College Sujeiry was indeed a Big V, I still yearned to cuddle and feel the warm flesh of a man inches away from my tender skin.

Blame Mami, who never allowed Cute Kid Sujeiry to participate in sleepovers.

What happened most mornings was common for an item without labels and very unlike my rigid upbringing. He would kiss me good morning, funky morning breathe and all, and out the door he went, creeping back to his dorm room at dawn, hoody over his head like a creature of the night. But what of those who were in an actual relationships? They practically lived together in a tiny cell of a dorm room. Decorating the pasty concrete walls with happy photographs of trips to the mall and class and the Student Union and back to the mall. I found it to be very romantic and often wished to have that connection. How amazing it would be to share my twin sized bed throughout an entire night and consecutive weeks at a time!

At least for me.

Many women, on the other hand, rather have their separate space, including their own bed to crawl into after the sexing is finito. It’s the latest trend in relationships, which is ironically called Stayover Relationships. According to a University of Missouri study, recent couples rather spend “three or more nights together each week while maintaining the option of going to their own homes.” Debunking the myth that women are dependent on their mates and that all couples desire to live like married folk.

How is this impacting the longevity of relationships? That is still unknown. What we do know is that couples are shacking up part time to avoid the potential negative consequences of living together full time.

So, if you want to hit it and sleep alone in your Full sized mattress, you can!

If your Mami allows, that is.

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.


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