It’s a sunny Saturday morning. I’m working on my boyfriends computer while he’s at the gym when I see her. And her. And her?! Rain clouds appear and I just want to DELETE, DELETE, DELETE!
He isn’t cheating. These are photos of his ex-girlfriends. They sit in his computers trash bin much like past relationships do – discarded but never really forgotten. They’re there, and I found them without snooping. Although once I saw the one it was difficult to stop clicking to the next photo and zooming in on her face and her face to find imperfections.
She’s not as pretty as I am, I told Boo.
He took it well. Defended her as a human being and, surprisingly, Boo didn’t accuse me of invading his privacy. Thing is whether intentional or inadvertently snooping happens in relationships. So is it ever okay to snoop? Perhaps. Here are times when you should put on your detective hat and get to digging.
That Woman’s Intuition
Our woman’s intuition often tells us when something in the milk ain’t clean. As in your man is cheating. It’s that feeling you just can’t shake. You want to ask him about it but you’ve been arguing, or he gets defensive when you try to bring it up. This is when you need to snoop. Maybe you will not find anything, but if his behavior or schedule has suddenly changed you probably will.
When Surprising Your Man
You want to throw your man a surprise bash but don’t know how to contact his boys, or even what to get him for a gift. This is when snooping comes in handy. Perusing his social media profile and Google search history will allow you to get in touch with friends and gift him with the best birthday present ever.
You Met Online
Let’s say you start dating a guy that you met online. This is when I give you permission to Google him! Avoid being catfished and find out as much about him as you can before you are in too deep.
Long Distance Love
When in a long distance relationship you and your significant other are practically living separate lives. He does his thing. You do yours. And when you are finally in the same city and state you are a true couple. But what is happening when you aren’t around? Again, it’s time to snoop. Check his Facebook profile and photos for any clues that he may be having too much fun when you’re gone.
Again, snooping should only take place if you feel something is wrong. It should also be your last resort. (Communication comes first!) Now let me get to deleting some photos of my own. One never know who is watching.