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Why It’s Hard to Sleep Without Boo

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Why It’s Hard to Sleep Without Boo

When sleeping elsewhere, Sujeiry becomes that girl and misses her man terribly.

When I was single I never understood why women in relationships couldn’t spend the night without their man. Many of these women refused to go away on girl weekends, 5-day Caribbean vacations, or spend a night at a sleepover like when we were single 20-somethings.

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I remember how my cousin Yari nervously shook her leg while lying on a bed beside me. We were in a hotel room in NYC having a girls-night-in with my other cousin Dileyka and my sister, Adayna, who’d been visiting from Charlotte. Yari couldn’t sleep; for approximately 20 years she has slept beside her man every night. Feeling her toss and turn and fidget was torture, especially since I shared said hotel bed with her.

I remember thinking: women like this are so needy; they’re in a relationship and suddenly lose their badass independence. It’s like they’ve never slept without a man.

I judged. I assumed that this had to do with a dysfunction in their relationship and not something much simpler: love and costumbre.

You see, a few night ago I stayed at my mother’s apartment in NYC. And I missed Boo. I had just seen him earlier in the day, but living with him has changed things. I lay next to him every night, listening to him breathe…in and out…in and out. It has become my lullaby. We struggle with the blanket at night, and in the morning I jokingly accuse him of hogging the comforter as he accuses me. Sometimes in the middle of the night, when I have to go to the bathroom or when I am tossing and turning, I open my eyes, look at him, and smile. In the mornings, I feel him plant a kiss on my cheek and whisper “I love you.”

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This is what I missed that night at my moms. Although I had a full-sized bed all to myself, and could stretch my legs and arms wide, and wrap the covers tightly around my limbs, I missed Boo.

After just one night away from home, I now understand why girlfriends that are in relationships rather spend the night cuddling with their man instead of partying it up in a hotel room in NYC. It doesn’t make them or me less independent or driven. It simply means that we’ve build a great life and traditions with someone that we love.

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.


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