They say to “live and learn,” and I’ve definitely done my share of learning. I know when a man is bad news right off the bat, as many women do. Call it woman’s intuition, but when first getting acquainted with a man, many women ask themselves, what is this exactly? Will he be a possible suitor? Or is he just a waste of my time?
Although you may not know what kind of man you want, you know exactly what kind of man you don’t want.
Along with a woman’s set of standards, we also have a set of ‘red flags.’ Have you ever heard a guy say something like, “most of my friends are women,” or, “I’m really close to my mom,”and it just didn’t sit well with you? These aren’t awful characteristics that make a man undatable, but it sets off an internal signal. It’s like a warning sign yelling, “There’s no imminent danger but you need to watch out!”
Red flags can differ from person to person. Personally, a red flag shoots straight up in the air when a man tells me he’s a musician. Strange, I know. Most women love musicians. I’ve dated enough musicians to know how emotional and dramatic they can be. That’s just not for me.
It doesn’t mean I won’t give a musician a shot. If I do, I’m going to tap into my intuition and feel out the situation so I feel it’s worth my love and attention. Regardless of what he does for a living, once I see three red flags, I’m long gone. There is no convincing me that he is “the one.”
So, discover your red flags when dating. Realize that they may change as you date. I have changed my set of red flags as the result of past relationships. That’s okay. As long as you recognize your own ‘red flags,’ you will “live and learn,” and hopefully even meet your match.
Erynn Castellanos is an aspiring radio broadcaster with an opinion on all things love. Currently going through the trials of most twenty somethings, she balances life and relationships and knows what she wants. Her articles on LoveSujeiry.com tie in her personal experiences while exploring the early stages of dating and the single life.
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