In love, there are very few things that I find frivolous. A man must pay for the first date including tip. If they don’t, they’ll get the evil eye and a potential cocotaso (literally and figuratively). Sex is a also a serious matter. I’ve never had a one night stand and refuse to let a pene in my pepa™ without a condom if we haven’t had the STD/HIV test/talk. Saying I love you? That’s life altering, kick-me-in-the-pepa™ serious. Those three little words almost always leads to a case of vulnerability and dickmatization!
Unfortunately, women and men don’t always see eye to eye when it comes to relationship woes. Men are more “carefree” and so they think women are psycho when we expect certain needs to be met. Lets say you’re a woman who wants to be called daily by your mate. If he misses a few days, then the conversation may go a little something like this:
“Why are you mad, baby?” He asks casually.
“We didn’t speak yesterday and it’s important for me to have that time with you since we don’t see each other every day,” she replies in a firm tone.
“Baby! It’s just a phone call! It’s not a big deal!” He laughs it off.
“IT IS TO A BIG DEAL!”
And there she goes, blowing her cool because he thinks her needs are frivolous.
Don’t get me wrong. Women can get upset over silly things. Sure, he left the toilet seat up and you fell into the toilet, dooky water all over your behind. Ok, he’s always late and forgot your month-a-versary. Mofo doesn’t even know what a month-a-versary is! But if your man is good and the relationship is one of love and respect, we, mujeres, must let it go. No one is perfect, and the little things that are important to you may not necessarily align with what is important to him. He probably doesn’t understand that you’re upset because he didn’t notice your haircut.
So before we go breaking up relationships and giving out cocotasos (literally this time), make sure that the situation calls for those drastic actions. Because not doing so would be just silly.