I once dated a man who was extremely insecure. He would constantly text me, demanding to know where I was and who I was with. It would begin as a casual conversation. Then I realized he was keeping tabs on me. If I didn’t text back immediately, ten more texts would appear. Soon after, he stalked Facebook page, liking every picture and commenting on all updates. He was clearly marking his territory.
I told him I did not want a serious relationship, but he insisted we become exclusive. I felt like I needed to file a restraining order. He was so insecure about everything and I could not handle it!
If this sounds familiar, you may be dating an insecure man. Here are some signs to be aware of:
He doesn’t want you to have a life outside of your relationship.
When with an insecure man he will limit your social activities with your friends and maybe even your family. This man wants everything to be about him. He wants all of your time all of the time!
He does not trust you.
When a man is not secure with himself, he will always worry that you will find someone else. He will check your phone, log into your social media accounts, and keep tabs on where you are at all times.
He tears down your confidence.
An insecure man will never give you a pat on the back for that promotion you earned at work. He will never tell you how amazing you look in that new outfit, especially if you’re hanging out without him. He doesn’t want you to know how truly fabulous you are because he feels inadequate. So he tears you down so you can feel just as inadequate and never leave him.
Know that you cannot change this man and this is a toxic relationship. An insecure man needs to love himself first before he can love anyone else. His constant feelings of inadequacy will wreak havoc on your relationship. End your relationship for your own sanity.