I recently had my heart broken. The absolute worst advice I was given was, “In order to get over one man, you need to get under another.” But, if it doesn’t work out with that one should I move on to the second until I find myself at a clinic with an infestation of crabs? Good times.
While I chose not to ease my pain with random sex, I did decide to date. Because I wasn’t ready, my behavior toward these guys was honestly atrocious. I am ashamed to admit that I treated them in a crappy manner. Yes, there were multiple men; I had numerous rebounds. I was searching for a man to fill the void in my heart that was left by the man that meant so much to me.
How do you know that you’re just using a guy for attention, distraction or a free meal? When is a guy just a rebound versus the real deal? Here are some signs that you might be doing what I was doing.
You dread seeing him
This was probably the biggest sign for me. I absolutely loved seeing the guy I was dating in the summer. During my rebound phase, I dreaded seeing any of the new guys. I would look at the clock and make up an excuse to end the night. I was crawling out of my skin. I was also hesitant to make or solidify any future plans.