Just like a pest that keeps flying by your ear on a hot summers day, ex-boyfriends can be a pain in the butt. Sometimes you feel like you can’t live without them. Other times the infamous reoccurring ex can become the most annoying person in your contact list.
I personally haven’t had many serious relationships. However, some of the guys that I’ve casually dated just don’t know how to take a hint. Yes, separating from someone you deeply care about or even love can be traumatizing. Time is the healer of all things. If your man is constantly contacting you to reconcile, you need to set him straight. Make sure you reinforce your decision to go your separate ways.
This might sound simple at first, but it’s quite a challenging task. Some men are very persistent and will keep at it until you take them back. No matter how strong you may be, there are times where you might feel pressure to crack. Imagine receiving calls, texts, and direct messages on Facebook on a consistent basis from the man that you are trying to get over. Half of you reading this post would probably answer your ex-beau after his first text that reads, “Baby, I’m sorry for everything and there is nothing more important to me than working things out.” But stay strong, ladies. If you give in, he will realize that you weren’t serious. If you take him back too quickly, he’ll continue making the same mistakes.
That is if you plan on rekindling your romance with your ex at all.
If you do, he needs to step up to the plate and become a better man. A man once taught me that when a man truly loves you, he will straighten up if you hit them with the following line:
“I don’t have any more time to waste on your games. Call me when you are on the same page.”
If you recite that sentence and drop him cold turkey for at least a month, he won’t know what to do with himself. If he truly loves you, he will come back willing to change. However, if he continues to live his single life, he did you a favor by making it easier for you to cut your losses.
No matter what you decide to do make sure that you are not stuck in limbo. Weigh the pros and cons. If your ex is worth the effort but just needs a little straightening up, try the second approach. However, if you know deep in your heart that he is not the one, move on with your life.
Tonya Nelson is an ambitious hopeless romantic. As a graduating senior at Howard University, Tonya uses her experiences to share her ideas about love and romance from a collegiate perspective. Her plans are to become a multimedia mogul. Until then, she’s working on her college degree while indulging in casual dating along the way.
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