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The Growing Pains of Rejection: To Love and Value Myself

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The Growing Pains of Rejection: To Love and Value Myself

When coping with abandonment and rejection issues, we must make life decisions with awareness. Here’s my story and how I am learning to love and value myself.

Sujeiry LossNo one is perfect. We all waver and have feelings of doubt.

I struggle with self-worth and have been very candid about it, particularly in my book, Love Trips. I am only human. I am constantly growing. I realize that though I am not quite healed yet I am getting there inch by inch.

Still, I have some work to do as I do not always value myself as I should. I place too much stock on failed relationships, rejection and irreciprocal love. I make choices that aren’t always what’s best. I am not always fully aware of my value, which loved ones assure me is worth billions. To friends and family, my value is limitless. Infinite. Yet I find myself contemplating it, questioning how much I am really worth. I even put myself second; so much for being self-first.

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But something happened recently that has given me faith.

I said no to an opportunity that would compromise my ethics, belief system and my message – one that I so passionately and honestly share with all of you.

It wasn’t an immediate response. Instinctively I don’t always lead with a highest sense of self. This time wasn’t any different. My reaction was to jump in head first. Some of it is impulse but most of it was a need to have this big professional break, and even a partner in life. So I said yes. Days later, when in my space, my heart and my head, I reflected:

Why am I doing this? Do I not think I am worth more? Do I believe that this is the only way that I can succeed in the spotlight and find love?

I did.

That was my epiphany. So I still have work to do. I still struggle with a feeling of worthlesness and a lack of self-love. I am still working on being self-first every step of the way and in every aspect of my life. This decision was the first step. Turning something down that could change my life, for better or worse, but would compromise everything that I have worked for, including my value and belief system, is a clear indication that thought I am not perfect, I am growing. I am learning and loving myself more a little more inch by inch.

Can you relate? What tough decision have you made?

Photo Credit: Sujeiry Gonzalez. 

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.


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