Before I met Boo, I was the “Queen of Failed Relationships.” My bad relationship choices led me to write about my drinking and dialing — and hollering and sobbing like a telenovela star. Cue an ugly wail, raccoon eyes, and a slow slide down a wall.
Soon, I was affectionately coined the “Latina Carrie Bradshaw.” It was cool to be known as Carrie. It was also cathartic to write about my journey since I built a career out of my failed relationship attempts and wild ways. Do you know what wasn’t hot? How I continued dating jerks. How I often plowed down a self-destructive path because I couldn’t resist the allure of a douchey smile, a slimy piropo (catcall), or a chaotic courtship.
Does this sound like you? Have you had a string of bad relationships because you can’t stop dating a-holes? If you have, don’t fret. Those bad boys and homeboys that you once loved were good for something. Let’s take a look at the silver lining — here are five reasons to date a jerk:
1) You will discover what you don’t want in a relationship.
With every relationship wrong you will discover a right. If you hadn’t dated that jerk, you wouldn’t have realized that you need a man who is supportive and kind, who listens and is affectionate. Sometimes we need to experience heartache to pinpoint our needs in a relationship. So thank that jerk for treating you like crap. You now know your non-negotiables. And you won’t let a man treat you like days-old basura again.
2) You will learn to stand up for yourself.
Due to my Papi abandonment issues, I was afraid of rejection. So when a man I dated ignored my calls, evaded the truth, or disregarded my feelings, I would pretend to be unaffected. That’s because I didn’t want to stir the pot. I was afraid that the jerk would dump me. Eventually, I realized this: mejor sola que mal acompañada. I stood up for myself when I felt disrespected. If I hadn’t dated jerks, I would still be afraid to speak up. Read the rest on Latina.com!