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But He’s a Jerk! 5 Reasons To Date Him Anyway

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But He’s a Jerk! 5 Reasons To Date Him Anyway

Why would any woman date a jerk? To learn a few things. Here are some reasons.

Before I met Boo, I was the “Queen of Failed Relationships.” My bad relationship choices led me to write about my drinking and dialing — and hollering and sobbing like a telenovela star. Cue an ugly wail, raccoon eyes, and a slow slide down a wall.

Soon, I was affectionately coined the “Latina Carrie Bradshaw.” It was cool to be known as Carrie. It was also cathartic to write about my journey since I built a career out of my failed relationship attempts and wild ways. Do you know what wasn’t hot? How I continued dating jerks. How I often plowed down a self-destructive path because I couldn’t resist the allure of a douchey smile, a slimy piropo (catcall), or a chaotic courtship.

PLUS: 3 Lessons I’ve Learned from the Bad Boys I’ve Dated

Does this sound like you? Have you had a string of bad relationships because you can’t stop dating a-holes? If you have, don’t fret. Those bad boys and homeboys that you once loved were good for something. Let’s take a look at the silver lining — here are five reasons to date a jerk:

1) You will discover what you don’t want in a relationship.

With every relationship wrong you will discover a right. If you hadn’t dated that jerk, you wouldn’t have realized that you need a man who is supportive and kind, who listens and is affectionate. Sometimes we need to experience heartache to pinpoint our needs in a relationship. So thank that jerk for treating you like crap. You now know your non-negotiables. And you won’t let a man treat you like days-old basura again.

2) You will learn to stand up for yourself.

Due to my Papi abandonment issues, I was afraid of rejection. So when a man I dated ignored my calls, evaded the truth, or disregarded my feelings, I would pretend to be unaffected. That’s because I didn’t want to stir the pot. I was afraid that the jerk would dump me. Eventually, I realized this: mejor sola que mal acompañada. I stood up for myself when I felt disrespected. If I hadn’t dated jerks, I would still be afraid to speak up. Read the rest on!

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.


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