There’s a Spanish saying that goes: “Mejor estar sola que mal alcompañada” (Better to be alone than in bad company), and I completely agree. No one should be in a relationship for the sake of being one. A lifetime of romantic disconnect is a high price to pay for lackluster companionship. If and when things go south with your lover, and your needs are not being fulfilled, end the relationship — that’s what a breakup is for.
But what if your ex wants you back? He calls incessantly with his voice full of remorse and regret. Or he promises to do better the second time around, to listen and be a supportive boyfriend like you always wanted. Do you start over with a past love? Should you? Or is an ex an ex for reason — no if’s, and’s or but’s about it?
It depends on the relationship and the reasons why it ended. Never say never and maybe, you should even say yes. Here are five reasons to give your ex another chance:
Too Much Distance
You start dating and everything is great. Suddenly, he needs to leave town due to job relocation. You try long distance, but it’s a bust after only 6 months. And so, you break up, cursing the state of Wisconsin (where my imagination sends lovers that relocate) every time you see a block of cheese. What if he comes back and wants to rekindle your love? Say yes, chica. Sure, he could’ve stayed, but a man’s gotta work. If you break up because of distance and he then returns to you (and your city) for good, work it out.
Perspective and Maturity
Let’s face it: women mature faster than men, so he may just need time to grow up. I know a gal who is now married with children to a guy who was a commitment-phobe. He had to become a man and realize how important she was to him. When he did, she embraced him with open arms — but only after he proved that he had los pantalones bien puesto. Read the rest on Latina.com!